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The penis is not a muscle; it does not move by itself. Rather, you steer it with the muscles in your pelvis. Moving and playing with your pelvic muscles during sex also allows you to modulate your arousal and increase your pleasure.

High muscular tension during sex can lead to problems

Sexual arousal needs some muscular tension. If you just relax, your arousal falls asleep and you won’t reach orgasm. However, high muscular tension can also lead to sexual problems, ranging from unpleasant emotions to erectile dysfunction. This has to do with a constriction of blood flow and your body getting into a state of stress. Read more about these problems in this text on muscular tension during sex.

Movement allows tension and relaxation at the same time

Go ahead and bend and stretch your arm alternately. Try to observe which muscles work when. While bending, the biceps (the flexor) works; during stretching, the triceps (the extensor) takes over. While one muscle works, the opposite muscle relaxes. Movement, in fact, is nothing more than muscles and muscle groups in your body alternating tension and relaxation. And, this is exactly what you need during sex: enough tension for your sexual arousal to go up coupled with enough relaxation for better blood circulation and a more enjoyable experience.

Movement allows for more blood flow

Movement promotes blood circulation. Clench your fist and watch how it changes color. Do you see the knuckles turning white? This is because high muscular tension constricts blood flow. Now alternately open and close your hand. You can see much more color now. You're basically pumping blood into your hand. This better circulation is key to better sex. Because:

You feel more
It's simple: Better blood circulation makes you feel more. So if you move your body – and especially your pelvis – during sex, you're better able to feel subtle stimulations and changes, and you'll have an overall much more intense sensual experience.

You have a better erection
An erection is nothing more than blood flowing into the penis. This can't happen if your muscles are so tense that the blood flow is constricted. Moving will pump more blood into your penis.

You can steer your penis better
The penis is not a muscle – it does not move by itself. It's not attached to the outside of the body, but deeply anchored in the body. Almost half of the penis runs under your skin. So you can steer it by moving your pelvis and playing with the muscles in your pelvis. During masturbation, you don't necessarily need that skill. But once you have sex with another person, you do.

You can control your arousal better
Obviously, to control your sexual arousal, you need to feel it. The more you can distinguish between subtle changes, the better you can modulate it – even when you're very aroused, and close to your point of no return.

Pelvic movement is sexy

Many pop stars show us on stage what a pelvis can look like during sex. Latin dancers know that anyway. Many men have never tried to play with their pelvis like that. Do you have a mirror in your room – or in the bathroom or anywhere? If so, find a quiet moment to yourself and see what you can do with your pelvis when no one else is watching.

Why is moving harder during sex than otherwise?

For many men, they find it easy to move their pelvis – say, when they're dancing. But during sex they become stiff as a log. Maybe this is true for you, too. The reason is probably that you're accustomed to tightening your pelvic and butt muscles during sexual arousal – and maybe other muscles, as well. It simply means you have to learn something new. You have to practice.

Practice makes perfect

Please check out this text on sexual learning and these practice tips. They explain to you why everything you'll ever be able to do sexually takes practice. On this website, you'll find many practice tips for moving during sex. We suggest you start with these tips explaining the pelvic swing and these tips for more movement in the upper body.