You don’t need to look perfect to be attractive. What matters more is your charisma and your attitude toward other people. Here are some tips on how to work on both.
Do something for yourself
If you want to seduce someone, it helps to look reasonably well-groomed and fit. But the idea that a perfect body, big muscles, big breasts, or a large penis makes people more successful with others is wrong. Because those things don't make you a better person. And people actually like to be around other people - not perfectly formed objects. This also is true if you have a disability or impairment.
So, no matter what kind of body nature has given you, your charisma and your attitude to others are much more important. And you can work on both.
How is my attitude toward others?
Do you see other people as interesting individuals? Or are they a means to an end? Do they have to fulfill a role for you? Are you guided by prejudices, or do you truly see them? Are you interested in their problems, worries, desires, and dreams? People who succeed with others show genuine interest. This attitude is reflected in your behavior. You treat others openly and respectfully. Then they feel better in your presence, enjoy being with you, and are more willing to do things with you. They become more receptive to what you offer.
How do I improve my charisma?
When you're having a bad day, you look different than when the world is “right”. When you smile, you appear more attractive than when you frown, even though you are the same person with the same body. This is called charisma. It affects others more than a perfect appearance.
Your charisma reflects how you see yourself. It doesn’t matter how you look, how dressed up you are, or whether you have a disability. If you see yourself as interesting, attractive, sexy, and lovable, others will notice that.
You show it in your facial expression, the way you look at others, your posture, and how you talk about yourself. This charisma invites others to find you interesting, attractive, sexy, and lovable.
How do I make myself interesting?
You are interesting if you are:
- interested in other people and show an interest in what matters to them.
- a good listener, share about yourself, and if you have a sense of humor.
- enthusiastic about various activities, music, fashion, games, or sports.
- curious about different lifestyles and perspectives.
How do I make myself attractive?
You are attractive if you:
- enjoy taking care of your body — or learn to enjoy doing so.
- focus on the parts of your body that you like to touch or to look at, or that feel good.
- emphasize these areas with clothing, jewelry, makeup, or accessories.
- feel comfortable in your skin. Anything that improves your body image and body awareness will help achieve this. This feeling of well-being is improves your posture, facial expression, movements, and walk.
- practice a relaxed, upright posture.
- often think about things you are proud of, enjoy, or are interested in. You will then simply look more confident into the world.
- smile, especially when looking at others or yourself in the mirror. Smiling makes you beautiful.
The same applies if you have a disability or impairment. Do you need help with personal hygiene? If so, demand to be cared for in a way that feels good to you.
Think about which parts of your body you like. Also, try to accept the parts that may look different because of your disability. Feeling comfortable in your own skin is attractive. It will also improve your posture and self-image.
If it's physically impossible for you to have a relaxed, upright posture, it's still worth practicing. Just imagine yourself relaxed or sitting or standing upright. You'll see that it already changes something in your body and your posture.
Yes: smiling really helps
Smiling improves your charisma. When you smile at people, they like you faster. Even if you don’t feel like smiling, sit up straight and smile broadly. Hold your head up, open your eyes, and open your mouth. Then say to yourself, "The world is screwed up." You probably won't be very successful at that. That's because we can influence our mood through small changes in our facial expressions and posture. We feel better when we stand up straight, smile, and keep our eyes open than when we hunch over and look grumpy. Give it a try!
How do I make myself sexy?
You are sexy if you:
- work on your sexual confidence.
- learn to enjoy sexual arousal.
- develop the desire to insert your penis somewhere or to receive something with your vagina.
- become more active and relaxed during sex. One secret to achieving this is to move more during sex.
- are independent and self-sufficient. This means that you are comfortable being single and do not become overly clingy in a relationship. Independence is sexy.
- give your partners space and freedom to be themselves.
How do I make myself lovable?
You are lovable if you:
- can see others as lovable.
- see yourself as lovable. This means you get along with yourself so well that you feel you have the right to be loved.
- work on understanding and managing your feelings, while expressing them appropriately.
- allow yourself to be shy sometimes.
- take responsibility for yourself and your actions in relationships.
- make efforts for your own well-being and that of your partner.
- treat your partners the way you wish to be treated.
