Sexuality: facts and tips / Tips on different sexual practices:

Trying is better than studying, and pleasure matters more than coming. Whether you want to take semen into your mouth or swallow it is entirely up to you. The important thing is to protect yourself against sexually transmitted infections.

Practice with a popsicle

Imagine what you can do with a popsicle: you can lick it, slide it into your mouth, nuzzle it, suck on it, play with it using your tongue, move it in and out, and so on. Fellatio, the stimulation of the penis with the mouth, is quite similar. The slang expression “to give a blowjob” sounds a bit odd, since when the penis is in your mouth, what men usually find arousing is the sucking part, not the blowing.

Trying is better than studying

Of course, a penis doesn’t feel or taste like a popsicle. You’ll only find out how it feels and tastes when you try it. Just don’t bite. More saliva helps things glide more easily and feel better for him. You can also take the penis into your mouth when he doesn't have an erection yet. There’s no single right technique for fellatio. Every boy and every man likes it differently, and you’ll also find out what you like and what you don't like so much. A good rule of thumb is to try something three times before deciding whether you like it or not.

Variations depending on your mood

If your mouth needs a break, you can continue with your hands, for example. Many men also enjoy having their testicles taken into the mouth or stimulated with it. Pay attention to how the scrotum smells: thanks to the hair, the sexual scent can really unfold here. Ask your partner what he enjoys while you’re doing it. He might give you more ideas.

Pleasure is more important than coming

If your goal is to make him come at all costs, you might end up feeling pressured. It can take some practice for both of you before you get the hang of it. If you’ve had enough of using your mouth, you can continue with your hands, he can touch you, or he can touch himself – just anything you enjoy doing during petting and foreplay. The only rule is to stick with what feels good and fun for both of you.

What if I start gagging?

The gag reflex is triggered in when something touches the throat but isn’t swallowed. One way to counteract this is to relax by breathing deeply and opening your mouth wide, as if you are yawning. Also, make sure your head is in a relaxed position during fellatio. When you feel the urge to gag, try swallowing right then. That often stops the reflex. You can also simply avoid taking the penis too deep into your mouth. Keep one hand around the shaft and use both mouth and hand together.

Protection against sexually transmitted infections

You can’t get pregnant from having semen in your mouth. However, there are sexually transmitted infections that can be transmitted through fellatio. It is therefore important to find out how you can protect yourself against them. The most important safer-sex rule for fellatio is to use condoms if you’re not in a steady relationship or if you don’t know whether your partner has an infection.

Swallow or not swallow?

It’s your decision whether you want semen in your mouth and whether you want to swallow it. Agree beforehand if your partner is allowed to ejaculate in your mouth. If not, take the penis out before he comes. Ask him to tell you when he’s about to. If he does come in your mouth, you can try swallowing to see how it feels and tastes. If you don’t like the taste, just spit it out. You can also use your hand during fellatio at any time.

Semen is well tolerated, but both of you should be sure that neither of you has a sexually transmitted infection.