Sexuality: facts and tips / Sex tips and exercises for women and all vulva & vagina owners:

These tips are intended to encourage you to try out and practise on your own. This will help you find "visitors" in your vagina more and more arousing over time.

How can I feel more in my vagina?

You are currently reading a text with tips on how to get aroused in the vagina. If you want to know why you feel so little in your vagina, please read our text, "Why do I feel so little in my vagina?" Because it's a big step from "I feel nothing" to "sexually aroused." Therefore, first familiarize yourself with touch in the vagina before trying to become sexually aroused in the vagina.

We recommend reading our tips "How do I learn to perceive more inside my vagina?" before reading this text, as this text builds on the other.

What arouses the vagina?

The vagina likes to be massaged. This is because further inside, it is particularly sensitive to pressure, rather than friction. You can also arouse yourself through this stimulation. To massage your vagina, slowly move your finger in a circular motion or simply press against its walls on all sides. This gently massages the pelvic floor muscles as well. These muscles surround the first two centimeters of the vagina. Once you have warmed up the vagina a little by massaging it, you can try to see if there is room for more than one finger. Then, continue massaging with several fingers.

Why is it worth moving the pelvis?

It's beneficial to move your pelvis (by rocking, circling, or doing whatever else you like). This is because movement promotes blood circulation. More blood flow means you feel more. Additionally, we simply perceive moving body parts better than motionless ones because the brain finds changing stimuli more interesting.

Moving also loosens your muscles. This is because muscles cannot tense up when you move. You can read more about this in our text, "Effects of high muscular tension during sex".

Why should I swing my pelvis?

When you swing your pelvis, you move your vagina back and forth. Try it out by placing your finger at the entrance of your vagina. See if you can "bring your finger in" just by moving your pelvis. This way, your vagina is actively taking in, not passively penetrated. To learn these movements, read our tips, "Sex in motion: pelvic swing for women" There, you will also learn how to increase your sexual arousal by combining the pelvic swing with playing with your pelvic floor muscles. This method is very effective for increasing sexual arousal.

How can I benefit from playing with my pelvic floor muscles?

Playing with the pelvic floor muscles helps increase sexual arousal. This is because the muscles have nerve endings that can be stimulated. You can find tips on how to do this in our text "Pelvic floor training for women for sex".

What can I gain from playing with my breath?

Breathing is actually also a kind of movement. Depending on how you breathe, different areas of your lungs expand and receive ventilation. That is movement. This movement is most intense when you breathe into your belly. When you breathe deeply, not only do your abdominal muscles move, but the muscles in your pelvic floor do too. These muscles stretch when you inhale and contract slightly when you exhale. You can read more about this in our text, "Abdominal breathing revitalizes and calms".

Will a dildo be useful for me?

We recommend that you only practice with one or more fingers at first. This is because you can more precisely explore the vagina with your finger. Your finger can sense something itself. Therefore, it's easier to learn to feel with your finger than with a dildo. However, after a while, it also helps to have a longer object than a finger. This makes it easier to reach deeper inside the vagina. For example, you can reach the cervix.

If you feel like it, buy yourself a dildo. In Switzerland, you must be at least 16 years old to visit an erotic store. In Austria, the protection of minors is the responsibility of the federal states. In Salzburg and Tyrol, you must be at least 18 years old. The same is true in Germany. However, you can buy dildos at some drugstores and supermarkets. They are often next to the condoms. Your age doesn't matter there.

What can I use instead of a dildo?

You can use a banana, zucchini, or sausage, for example. As long as they are clean, smooth, and not pointed, you can also take other objects into your vagina. We recommend rolling a condom over them. This is more hygienic and gets you into the habit of using condoms. It is also best to use lubricant.

Can I also practice with a vibrator?

Yes, you can also use a vibrator. Using a vibrator trains the excitability of nerve endings sensitive to vibration. However, strong vibrations are not ideal if you want to prepare your vagina for sexual intercourse. This is because penises cannot vibrate. Therefore, it feels very different from a vibrator. Depending on how strong your vibrator vibrates, you may not be able to move your body easily at the same time. This is because muscles automatically tense up with such strong stimulation.

Do you already have a vibrator? We recommend leaving it switched off while you practice. That way, you can use it as a dildo. Read more about the excitability of nerve endings in our text, "How does sexual learning work?" You may also be interested in our text, "Sexual arousal with a vibrator or shower stream".

How can I incorporate practice into masturbation?

Imagine that you are accustomed to stimulating your clitoris. First, rub your clitoris, and then insert your finger into your vagina. Massage your vagina a little, and then return to your clitoris. Alternate between the familiar and the new. Alternatively, you can use both hands: one on your clitoris and the other inside your vagina. This way, you're doing familiar and new things at the same time. Do you have a method of arousing yourself during masturbation that you're familiar with? If so, you can incorporate touching your vagina. Do this as we have just described. Your brain will learn to associate new types of stimulation with sexual arousal. This works better and faster if you alternate between the familiar and the new, or do both at the same time. If you are not yet familiar with masturbation, we also recommend reading our text, "Solo sex: Tips for women and all people with vulvas and vaginas".

How can I practice during petting with my partner?

This text describes a few ways you can practice. You can do all of these things with your partner as well. We recommend that they read through the text as well. They should familiarize themselves with the vagina and learn which touches feel better than others. They can use their hands, tongue, and sex toys. It's important to talk about what you're doing and how you feel. After all, you are a research team. You can find more tips in our text, "Talking about sex is helpful and erotic".

How can I practice during intercourse with my partner?

Let's assume that you move your pelvis and play with your pelvic floor muscles during intercourse. This allows you to actively arouse yourself sexually with your partner. You can also stimulate your external genitals with your hand at the same time. However, it's a good idea to take your hand away from time to time. This allows you to focus fully on your vaginal sensations. This way, your sensations won't be "covered" by what you feel on your external genitals. By doing this, you will train yourself to feel more in your vagina. You will gradually find sexual intercourse more arousing. Read more tips for sexual intercourse in our text, "Sexual intercourse: tips for more fun and pleasure".

Why isn't practicing with a partner enough?

When you practice alone, you won't be distracted. You can do exactly what you want. You can focus all your attention on yourself and your vagina. That's why we strongly recommend that you practice alone as well.

Can I help with my fantasies?

Suppose you want to feel more desire to take something into your vagina and become aroused by it. This exercise can help: Imagine your fingers are a penis that you are grasping with your vagina. Imagine what your vagina does and experiences with this penis. Everything we imagine helps us practice. In a sense, the brain learns twice as much when you fantasize at the same time.

Why is frequent practice so important?

Have you discovered a touch that feels pleasant? Then, repeat and intensify it. The more you repeat a touch, the more your vagina will feel it. You can read why this is the case in our text, "How does sexual learning work?". Let's assume that you practice often. Over time, you will find it increasingly arousing to touch yourself in the vagina. While practicing, pay attention to what arouses you sexually and how your vagina responds when you are aroused. What does your finger notice? Does your vagina become wetter? Does it widen? Do the muscles move differently?

How long should I practice?

If you practice for 20 minutes three times a week, you will notice changes relatively quickly. However, you may find it difficult to practice for that long. If so, you can also spend a few minutes touching your vagina every day. You can do this in the shower, on the toilet, or when applying lotion after a shower. Everything counts. However, it's important to focus your attention on your vagina. Imagine you have one finger inside your vagina and are typing on your smartphone with your other hand. That's definitely not the way to learn to feel something in your vagina. Learning requires attention.

What if I don't see any progress?

Many women have high expectations. They think, "I'm only making progress if I find touching my vagina totally arousing." That's not true. Even if you feel something, that's progress. If you find something pleasant, that's even more progress. If it arouses you a little, that's another step forward. Pleasure and sexual arousal are not prerequisites for practicing; they are your ultimate goal. Enjoy every little step, and practicing will become interesting. Your curiosity will also remain alive.