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I am a 26-year-old man. I have had relationships with women my own age in the past and am currently single, but recently, at a female friend's home, I met a woman who is older than me and has a disability.
She is 35 years old and is an intelligent and sensitive person with a good sense of humor, with whom I immediately hit it off. I find her very interesting and attractive—both as a person and as a woman.
She has a condition of Diastrophic dysplasia , and the most striking aspect of her appearance is her stature, which is well below average. She is under a meter tall, and her physique proportionally small but that of a full-grown, shapely woman.
Despite this, she is a very active and enterprising person with a positive and cheerful attitude towards life. She studied, earned a degree, has a job, and nurtures her interests and friendships.
She drives a car equipped with a raised driver's seat and pedal extensions and, within the limits of her capabilities, leads a fairly normal life, despite having to manage significant medical issues associated with her condition such as, for example, joint stiffness.
There was a certain feeling between us and at the end of the evening at my friend's house, we exchanged phone numbers.
We arranged to meet and went out together a couple of times.
The last time we met up, before heading back to our respective homes, we kissed for a long time in her car, but we didn't go any further due to the circumstances and also because we were in a public place.
I don't confide much in friends and family, but I know some of them who have found out about our new relationship don't approve. They think it's inappropriate because of our age difference, her condition, and our very obvious physical difference when we're together in public since I'm 1.88 meters tall and appear as a well-built guy due to the sport I have always practiced since I was a teenager.
On the other hand, these aspects of our relationship don't interest me or worry me. I don't care if people stare at us when we're in public. I care more about her being comfortable with me. I feel comfortable and at ease with her.
From what she tells me I think it's the same for her.
I also feel a very strong physical attraction, when we kissed and hugged each other, I felt a strong desire to have sex with her, and from her reactions, I think she wanted it too.
I find myself in a new situation—one that is completely unfamiliar to me—yet I feel very intrigued by it. I don't think there is anything wrong with us seeing each other, since we are both consenting adults, even though, when we first met, I was a bit embarrassed and felt uncomfortable about being so attracted to her.
I think our differences can have practical aspects as well as emotional ones.
However, I’d like to be prepared for when—hopefully—we can have sex together. I’d like to know how to conduct myself so that we’re both at ease during intimacy, too.
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As you describe, there’s an attraction between you two. You get along well and are drawn to each other. That’s what matters most. Unfortunately, it’s not unusual for the people around you to react with reserve. Many people aren’t used to seeing couples who are very different in height or age, or where one person has a disability. That’s why others often stare. Don’t let that bother you. People around you will often get used to it over time. It’s up to the two of you to decide if your relationship is right for you. And it’s completely normal to feel a little unsure at first when you’re in a new situation.
It’s a good idea that you want to prepare. The most important tip is to talk to her. She knows her body best. You can ask her what feels good to her, which movements or positions are uncomfortable, and what she needs to relax. Keep communicating as you become intimate, and figure out together what feels good for both of you.
With diastrophic dysplasia, the vagina may be slightly shorter. But that’s not necessarily the case. Still, it’s good to keep that in mind. The vagina is very stretchy and becomes longer and wider when aroused. So take plenty of time for foreplay. A good lubricant can also help.
What you can do is to learn how to rinse your penis thoroughly and to learn to be more aware of your penis. That way, you’ll have a better sense of how deep you’re penetrating and how much pressure you’re applying. Maybe you’re already pretty good at this. In this article, you’ll find information on what you can do to improve.
Also pay attention to sexual positions. Some positions make it easier when there’s a big difference in size, while others make it harder. Stiff joints, for example, in the hips or knees also play a role. Positions where your weight isn’t on her are often more comfortable, such as when she’s on top or when you’re lying side by side. Pillows can provide additional support for her body. You can find more on this in the article.
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